Thus all the frustration and moaning.
Put whatever words you like on the page, it does not matter. You don’t get to travel with them into the brain of the reader and control what happens there. Writers want to be telepaths, while readers are their own movie directors – these two metaphors will never work together. So your best bet is not to try. Relinquish control. Shaping every tiny little thing takes a lot of words, so many you’ll bore the reader. Write in broader strokes, find the best word in seven that you have written – delete all the rest. then sit back and let the reader run the show. You’ll both be happier. The sun will shine brighter, the beer will taste better. Promise.